If you find that you’re struggling to enforce your boundaries, it may be helpful to reflect on if you might be focusing more on the behaviors of others rather than on your own behaviors. Again, boundaries are about changing our own behaviors.
Here are a few examples of what a boundary might sound like:
“If you continue to talk to me in that way, I will need to end this conversation.”
“I only respond to emails during work hours.”
“I don’t feel comfortable participating in conversations about this.”
Notice that these all center around what the person setting the boundaries will do and it’s relatively easy to see how these boundaries would be enforced.
While it can be challenging, especially at first, to establish, communicate, and enforce boundaries, it’s important to remember that this is a key part of self-care and that it also gets easier with practice.